“This bad thing is not happening to you, it’s happening for you.”
TBH, if there’s one thing that I’d imagine is true about Oprah, it’s that she’s great at giving advice. I feel like that’s a pretty safe bet to make.
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And guess what? According to Ava DuVernay, OPRAH IS AMAZING AT GIVING ADVICE.
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During a “What She Said” event celebrating A Wrinkle In Time, femininity, and gender equality, which BuzzFeed attended, Ava told a story about Oprah that “changed [her] life.”
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“It’s gonna sound like a name drop, but she’s just a good friend of mine,” said Ava. “Sorry, it’s Oprah.”
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I was calling her about something … I was grumpy about something, [I said], “I don’t know why this happened.” She said, “This bad thing is not happening to you, it’s happening for you. Can’t you just take a second to try to figure out why?”
So now, anytime — I could be in traffic and I’m honking the horn, I’m like, “come on!”, flipping people off … and I just calm myself. It’ll come over me, this moment, when you’re late 15 minutes for the big meeting, you’re supposed to be there, you did everything you could to get [it]: “This is not happening to you, it’s happening for you…why?” Calm down. Chill. Just take a second. And that goes for the big stuff and the small stuff, and I really just use that as a guide.